It's time to ask yourself some important questions. Are you in the game? Do you only speak to women when you find it easy to do so? Or are you the confident guy who speaks to each woman you want? The confident guy is the one making things happen. The simple guy stays in his comfort zone and never takes chances. Which one are you? If you're the simple guy, read on because I'm going to reveal to you three sure-fire ways to get your ass in the game.
First things first. Let me tell you a personal story. I wasn't always the confident guy. Early in 2007, I started approaching women for the first time at a Brad P Bootcamp. I was 27 years old and I estimated that I'd done seven cold approaches in my life, all ending in disaster. I found myself hunting on the internet for as much information I could get my hands on. Like you, I wasn't "in the game" yet.
One night, I decided to go out with a buddy to practice what I learned. My friend boldly approached a few girls with opinion openers that flopped. So, we "locked ourselves in" at the bar and waited for conversations. When we were lucky enough to get into actual conversations we threw negs. It was bad because the girls got pissed. What I was doing wasn't working.
Finally, I went to a workshop and the following Saturday night I started talking with tons of women. Sunday after the workshop, I went out to the nightclubs alone and talked to even more women. That night, I kissed a pretty hot girl. It felt great to start to have women like me. Yet, I still didn't feel like I was "in the game."
Soon enough, I talked to girls regularly using the material I learned. I studied some, reviewed some, and then went out and applied it. Before long, I was comfortable with the material enough not to need a notecard. I became more open and started going on dates. I gained confidence in myself. I was finally in the game.
Why am I telling you all this? Well, I understand what you're going through because I've been there too. You deserve to walk into a room knowing you're a badass mother fucker. Sounds great, right? That's because it is. Here are three ways to get yourself in the game right now:
Fuck Negative Self-Talk
You have to ditch the negative mindset. Women can smell your self-loathing a mile away. The goal is to attract not repel. Think about it this way. If you don't think highly of yourself, odds are women won't either.
The Three Warm-Up Method
Starting small is okay. I recommend doing three warm-ups to ease the anxiety of approaching. Go to a bar or nightclub. Begin an interaction with the bartender, another guy, and a woman you aren't interested in. These interactions are your three warm-ups.
Why? Because this is the best way to gear up for speaking to women you want to speak to. After you've completed your warm-ups, talk to as many women as you can. Before long, you won't need to do the three warm-ups any longer.
Take Consistent Action
To get in the game, you have to play the game. By consistently taking action, you increase your chances with women. Then, those interactions turn into conversations. Conversations open up many different opportunities. For me, conversations help develop new relationships or lead to sex. It's all about having fun. Give yourself a realistic chance.
My challenge to you is simple. PUT YOURSELF IN THE GAME! Stop the negative self-talk. Get out there and do your three warmups. Take consistent action and talk to at least ten more women every night you go out.
When you put yourself in the game, you give us a realistic chance to coach you. You learn super quick. Your success comes faster. Most of all, you give yourself a chance to meet the goals you have with women! So get out there! You're here to change.